Transformative Love: How She Helped Me Embrace Openness
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Understanding My Past
Not too long ago, I found myself isolated, with few friends and no real social connections. I surrounded myself with individuals who mirrored my own negative traits: arrogance, ignorance, and judgment. The people I chose to engage with were often elitist, which led to pushing away almost everyone, including family. I was trapped in a rigid mindset, living in a self-imposed prison of biases, where my world was strictly black or white. Only those who conformed to my narrow view were allowed in; anyone else was swiftly dismissed.
Everything changed when I met her. She was the antithesis of everything I had known—radiant and inclusive, embracing a spectrum of colors that illuminated my darkened existence. From the first moment, I was drawn to her gentle beauty, her humility, and her wisdom. She exuded a quiet power, having chosen to forgo her wealth and status to connect with others genuinely.
At first, I remained distant, observing her from afar. Yet, her innate ability to connect with people, including me, compelled me to reach out and invite her on casual outings. Our chemistry was instant, and as we continued to meet, it became clear that we were meant to be.
My Love for Writing
Today, I want to express my gratitude to you, my love. You have guided me on a journey to rediscover life. Writing, you have become the most profound teacher, revealing the path to becoming my best self.
I find myself reflecting on a famous assertion by Aristotle, who once stated, “A friend to all is a friend to none.” I believe he intended to convey that it’s challenging to connect with everyone, given our diverse personalities. However, I would like to reinterpret his statement: “A friend to all is a friend to nobody and everybody.”
Modern technology, such as AI-driven friendship applications, has shown us that it’s possible to connect with a wide array of individuals by simply listening and adapting. These algorithms can shift forms and engage with anyone, demonstrating that understanding does not equate to dishonesty.
Let me counter Aristotle’s perspective on friendship. While I may not have met you, I am willing to embrace your ideas. Friendships can thrive on mutual understanding, and one doesn’t need to like someone to empathize with them.
Revisiting Aristotle
Mr. Aristotle, your views on friendship may have been applicable in your time, but today’s world demands a shift in our understanding. Increasing divisions based on race, ideas, and personal preferences have led to widespread animosity. We need a remedy for these biases, and writing serves as a powerful tool for introspection and understanding.
All of us possess biases, often judging others based on superficial characteristics or preconceived notions. These judgments can create divides, benefiting some while harming others. Writing enables us to articulate our thoughts, reflect on them, and adjust our perspectives. When we write for a broader audience, we are compelled to examine our biases, lest we propagate misunderstandings.
Most people fall into the trap of viewing others as strictly good or bad. I was once convinced that humanity was inherently evil, while a friend believed the opposite. These simplistic views foster biases that hinder genuine connections. Writing for diverse audiences forces us to adopt a more neutral stance.
The Complexity of People
Individuals are neither wholly good nor entirely bad; they embody a mix of both. Each person is like a uniquely labeled box, reflecting their individual experiences and attributes. By using writing as a bridge, we can connect with them on a deeper level.
Writing and reading empower us to observe without judgment. When we write, we can analyze human behavior from a distance, wondering about the motivations behind actions. Conversely, reading allows us to step into others' shoes, understanding their perspectives without imposing our judgments.
In contrast, many people communicate in a way that judges rather than connects, leading to loneliness and isolation. Overcoming ignorance and arrogance is essential for fostering meaningful relationships.
The Value of Connection
Perhaps friendship isn’t your priority, but it’s crucial to address and correct our distorted perceptions of one another. Friendship encourages us to slow down, listen, and appreciate the diverse experiences of others, leading to personal growth.
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— © Nour Boustani 2023
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