Empower Your Intimacy: Master 16 Non-Ejaculation Techniques
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Experiencing what is often referred to as a "mini death" after ejaculation can be disheartening. This phenomenon, known as "La petite mort," describes the wave of fatigue that follows climax, often leaving you feeling drained. Unfortunately, your partner might be eager for more, creating a disconnect if you’re unable to continue.
Premature ejaculation is a common challenge that can negatively impact your relationship if not addressed. To transform your sexual experiences, consider integrating these 16 techniques into your practice of non-ejaculation.
Some of these methods can help you delay ejaculation, while others support your overall stamina. Depending on the technique, you may find them useful during sex or solo activities.
Stopping
The stop-start method, also known as stopping, involves pausing any physical activity during self-pleasure or sexual intercourse. The goal is to allow your arousal to subside, thereby preventing ejaculation. If you’re self-pleasuring, take your hand away momentarily to let your excitement decrease. When with a partner, simply halt movement—whether you choose to withdraw or remain inside her.
Discussing this technique with your partner beforehand can help mitigate any awkwardness.
Breathing
Breath control plays a crucial role in your semen retention journey. You can breathe consciously or automatically, but changing your breath pattern can significantly affect your arousal levels. As excitement builds, your breath may quicken and become shallow. By focusing on deepening your breaths, you can manage your arousal more effectively.
Practice the following exercises outside of sexual contexts to familiarize yourself with them for more intense moments.
Belly Breathing 1. Sit comfortably with your back straight and feet flat on the ground, shoulder-width apart. 2. Place a hand on your abdomen. 3. Inhale through your nose, directing the breath below your navel, feeling your belly expand. 4. Exhale through your nose, allowing your abdomen to contract. 5. Repeat this cycle ten to twenty times.
Century Count This technique can be employed during self-pleasure or intercourse. You will count your breaths from 1 to 100 while practicing belly breathing. If you lose focus, restart at 1.
- Inhale deeply, sending air to your lower abdomen, and then exhale.
- Count each full breath from 1 to 100.
- Start counting on the exhale—e.g., inhale, exhale, count "1"; inhale, exhale, count "2," and so on.
- If you lose your place, return to 1.
- Aim to practice this daily for 30 days, working towards maintaining your count for five consecutive days.
Suspension of Breath If your arousal peaks, hold your breath to help regulate it. You can either inhale and hold or exhale and hold; the latter is often more effective for reducing excitement quickly.
Engaging the PC Muscles
The pubococcygeus (PC) muscles, which span from your pubic bone to your tailbone, support the pelvic organs and control urinary flow. Engaging these muscles before reaching the point of no return can help manage ejaculation.
PC Pull-ups 1. Inhale, focusing on your prostate, perineum, and anus. 2. Exhale, contracting your PC muscles. 3. Inhale and relax, releasing the contraction. 4. Repeat steps 2 and 3 for nine to thirty-six repetitions.
You can practice this exercise anytime.
Stopping the Stream 1. Stand on the balls of your feet just before urinating, using a wall for support if needed. 2. As you exhale, push out the urine while contracting your perineum and clenching your teeth. 3. Inhale and squeeze your PC muscles to halt the flow midstream. 4. Exhale and resume urinating. 5. Repeat this sequence four to seven times or until finished.
Squeezing the Penis
Although I don’t endorse this method, it's worth mentioning. This technique involves applying pressure on the underside of the penis right before ejaculation to inhibit semen release. Key areas to apply pressu