Chapter 1: Letting Go of What Weighs Us Down

In the spirit of reflecting on a year spent with your diary, The Diarist invites you to explore what you can release that no longer benefits you.

The notion of "letting go" is a familiar phrase I've encountered from family, friends, and therapists alike. I've often found myself offering this advice to others (except for therapists, of course). If it were truly that simple, I would dedicate my entire day to it—releasing the weight of my parents' divorce, past relationships, former jobs, emotional wounds inflicted by loved ones, and even guilt for not being the ideal daughter, partner, or friend.

I envision sitting at my desk, attempting to let go, only to find that my “let-go list” remains overwhelmingly long, seemingly enough to occupy me for the rest of my life. It feels reminiscent of refining a manuscript: it's never quite ready. You settle for what is acceptable, but before you know it, another round of edits beckons, revealing yet more to revise.

The truth is, I may never be entirely prepared. My goal is simply to evolve into a better version of myself.

A part of me seems to cling to suffering, finding comfort in the warm, muddy waters where I can languish in self-pity without any specific cause. It's a tempting retreat where everything can feel dismal. Yet, I'm fully aware that reality is far removed from this indulgence.

The other part of me stands beside this metaphorical pond, donning white trainers, hesitant to get dirty but recognizing that change is essential. We cannot live our lives in perpetual misery.

So, what do I do? I begin by releasing small portions of my suffering. For instance, I no longer allow myself to fret over a client's harsh feedback—after all, it reflects more on them than on me. That's one burden lifted. I also made a thirty-two-minute call to my mother to ease her worries about me. Another small victory.

In these moments, the optimistic side of me and the one that wallows can finally join forces. Together, we begin to step away from the mud. But for how long can we maintain this balance?

On days when I feel uplifted, I realize that my current state—feeling 82% content with my life, work, and partner—is a product of reducing my suffering. I've spent less time in that dismal pond (though I still have my days there, naturally).

This journey also involves letting go of burdens that do not belong to me—like the pain and struggles of my female ancestors, who endured betrayal and abandonment. I choose not to carry their weight; I possess my own unique resilience.

What a paradox it is!

I’ve stopped concealing my pain behind a facade of smiles. I’ve learned to speak up when necessary. I allow myself to cry when I need to, and I remain silent when I don’t wish to engage.

What a relief this newfound honesty brings!

Yet, why is it so challenging to release pain and embrace joy?

The suffering part of me often seeks attention—whether it be empathy, assistance, or simply someone to listen. There are days when I crave all of this. But the reality is, I can still receive support; I simply need to ask.

It’s challenging to vocalize my needs: “I require this.” I need time to myself, tranquility, an iced coffee, guidance with my work, or even a hug.

Surprisingly, it feels easier to retreat back into the muddy waters, where no words are needed.

Conversely, I've witnessed many individuals grappling with various forms of trauma and emotional distress. I’ve often felt powerless to alleviate their pain, as if I’ve failed to be their beacon of light.

Then, an epiphany struck: they must uncover their own light, just as I have done.

It took years to come to this understanding.

Ultimately, I must engage in the “letting go” exercise, repeating to myself as a mantra:

“Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.” — Eckhart Tolle

Do you have a mantra or a particular method for managing suffering? Do you perceive suffering as an integral part of life, karma, or something else entirely?

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Chapter 2: Minimalist Travels and the Art of Downsizing

In the pursuit of a lighter, more fulfilling life, many have adopted minimalism.

The first video, Minimalist Travels with Just 3 Small Bags for 3+ Years - Digital Nomad Life, explores how embracing minimalism can lead to a more liberated lifestyle.

As one navigates the complexities of downsizing, it becomes clear that letting go of physical possessions can also lead to emotional freedom.

The second video, I Downsized My Life To TWO Suitcases + MINIMALISM, showcases the transformative power of minimalism, illustrating how a simpler life can enhance our overall well-being.

Through these journeys, we learn that less truly can be more, paving the way for happier, more fulfilling lives.