Section 1.1: Accepting Your Feelings

When asked, "How are you?" the expected reply is often "good" or "okay." Rarely do people openly confess to not feeling well. This question has become more of a greeting than a genuine inquiry into someone's well-being.

It's crucial to understand that it's perfectly fine to not be okay. Bad days are a part of life, and having consecutive challenging days is also normal. While aiming for happiness is commendable, it's unrealistic to expect every day to be joyful. Embracing the notion that it's acceptable to struggle is the first step toward healing and change.

Section 1.2: Navigating Uncertainty at Any Age

I recently met a woman who, after quitting her job and selling her house, moved to Mexico without a clear plan. Although she's in her 40s and many may view this as impractical, her willingness to explore the unknown is commendable.

Reflecting on my own experience, when I applied to business school at 27, I had no clear vision of how to utilize my MBA. I simply believed it would be beneficial. Presenting myself as a candidate with a definitive plan felt necessary, yet many of us face immense external pressure to have our lives meticulously mapped out.

In interviews, the question "Where do you see yourself in five years?" is common, but how can anyone truly predict their future? The reality is that many roles we may hold in five years don't even exist today. Thus, it's entirely acceptable to be at any age and still be uncertain about your life's direction.

Section 2.1: Defining Your Own Joy

Before starting college, I often heard that it would be the best four years of my life. While I cherished my college experiences, I wouldn't label them as the pinnacle of my life. I was hesitant to step out of my comfort zone, which limited my experiences. In contrast, my life post-college has been incredibly fulfilling, and I believe the best is still ahead.

It's easy to feel as though you’re missing out if your experiences differ from others'. Just because college didn't meet societal expectations doesn't mean it was a failure. Instead, it's essential to seek what genuinely brings you joy, rather than chasing what others claim to enjoy.

Section 2.2: Embracing Change

In college, I was determined to secure a summer internship with a consulting firm. Despite my efforts, it didn't work out. However, I eventually landed a full-time position with a consulting firm that I initially celebrated. Yet, after six months, I realized it wasn't the right fit for me, and I transitioned to a different career path.

It’s perfectly acceptable to change your mind about what you want. Gaining experience helps you determine if something aligns with your values. If you discover that your initial choice doesn't suit you, it's never too late to pivot and pursue a new direction.

In sharing these common existential struggles, I hope to empower you to release the weight of societal expectations. Honor your unique journey, knowing that your feelings and uncertainties are valid and essential for your personal growth.

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